The Pious Woman Practices Self-Control—Chastity and Purity

Self-control is often overlooked in our society, but it is a very important virtue. Women who lack self-control sow much harm and destruction around them—whether through gossip, anger, or selfishness. We cannot justify the absence of self-control by our sincerity and naturalness. For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks and deeds are done. And we must admit that women often lack self-control in speech. I myself notice, frankly speaking, that when I am stressed and very tired, I can say something careless or thoughtless. Patience—this is something one must constantly work on.

You can use different strategies—simply count to ten when you are angry, or whisper a prayer quietly, or even take a walk... Find your strategy for when emotions are ready to overwhelm you completely. Ask God to help you bridle your tongue and respond with love, no matter what.

Gossip is another area where self-control is simply essential. A pious woman must be reliable—listen to another's concerns, remain a faithful friend in times of trouble. If people know you as someone who quickly spreads rumors or laughs behind someone's back, they will not open up to you.

"Prudence or discretion"—this is another way to translate the word "pure" in the Epistle to Titus 2. That is, being pure in mind means having good judgment, being able to judge fairly, being useful, having a sober mind. God says that a woman who has no discretion is like a gold ring in a pig's snout. She is ridiculous, absurd, out of place. Something clearly good in the context of recklessness becomes absurdity. Such a woman may be pleasant, even truly beautiful, but if the gold ring is in a pig's snout, what good is it? "As a gold ring in a pig's snout, so is a beautiful woman without discretion." (Proverbs 11:22).

Essentially, displaying self-mastery and prudence comes down to thoughtfulness and attentiveness. It means holding your tongue when necessary, and listening to the needs of others.